I Don’t Have My Life Under Control

I have reached the point in my life where the question, “What are you going to be when you grow up?” becomes more than a vague inquiry.  Teenage-hood is the time when I have to start really focussing on school, consider what university I will attend, and decide what career I will choose.


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There are a select few lucky people around me who seem to already be confident in their futures.  I see the faces of future doctors, lawyers, and engineers-in-training in my classrooms everyday.  It worries me that I still don’t know what to do with my life. These decisions seems to be impossible, because as soon as I choose one door to go through, all the other ones will slam shut.  If I choose one opportunity, all the other ones will be lost. What if I end up hating my university?  What if I can’t find employment because I majored in the wrong things during university?  What if I end up hating my job?

It’s at times like these that I have to take a moment and remind myself that there is no rush.


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People are always changing, evolving, learning, and growing.  There is always time to learn from and grow past mistakes.   There is always room to improve and discover new things about yourself.  And it’s never too late for fresh beginnings and new mindsets.  No matter what age you are or what stage of life you’re at, it’s perfectly fine to not have everything under control.

J.K. Rowling, the author of the Harry Potter series, was 32 when she published her first novel.  Vera Wang, one of the world’s most successful fashion designers, was a figure skater and journalist until age 40.  Lupita Nyong’o, a successful Hollywood actress, earned a Master’s from Yale University before landing a major acting role.

The point is, commitment to a certain life or career path right now is not a barrier for the future.  We should worry less about the possibility of missed opportunities, because you never know what the future will bring.  Age and time are not restrictions we can’t overcome.  I don’t need to be in a rush to get my life settled.  The best decision I can make is to take my time, and figure things out at my own pace.

A quote that I recently stumbled upon that really resonated with me was, “Don’t compare your chapter 1 to somebody else’s chapter 20”.  You are never truly ‘behind’, because life is not a race.  You are an individual with a unique journey, and you don’t have to compare yourself with anyone else or pressure yourself.

I still don’t know what I’m going to be when I grow up.  A lot of the time, I’m lost, confused, and unsure.  All I can do is be glad for the opportunities that have already been presented to me, and trust that there are greater things lying in wait for me in the future.

Am I being blindly faithful?  Am I relying too much on the promise of tomorrow?  I don’t know the answers to these questions.  There is no one way to answer them, in fact.  But while I certainly don’t know all the answers, I can offer this piece of assurance: It’s ok to not have your life under control.  It’s never too late for renewal and change.


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I’ve been thinking about starting a blog for the longest time, and after some deep contemplation (and an erratic burst of inspiration at 9 pm last Monday night), I did it!  If you sat through that whole thing, you’re awesome.  Here, have an free invisible puppy.  Or an invisible kitten, if you’re a cat person.

I hope this post took some weight off your shoulders- or at least taught you some things about the life paths of famous people.   “What are you going to be when you grow up?” looms closer on the horizon everyday, and sometimes we all need a reminder that the future is not set in stone.

I promise that not all my posts are gonna be wishy-washy, corny-advice-filled, chicken soup for the soul types.  If you wanna know what other kinds of stuff I’ll have, just click the ‘About’ button on the main navigation bar.  I’m not sure how often I’ll be posting, since my motto is ‘quality over quantity’, but at least 1 every 2 weeks is a promise!

I’d love feedback, so please feel free to comment below or share this with others!

Thank you so much for reading!

-Yi Nuo


7 thoughts on “I Don’t Have My Life Under Control”

  1. I am legit so proud of you like you’ve been wanting to start a blog for forever and now you have one! I’m looking forward to reading your deep inspirational thoughts at 1 in the morning… Keep it up!!!!!


    1. Thank you so much! I’m super excited (and I think I’ve said the word super about a million times today), and I have tons of ideas for future posts and this is gonna be great and this is a run on sentence. So. THANK YOU!!!!


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